Friday, December 19, 2008

Reality check...

Can I be honest with you? We're all friends here, right?

I think one of the hazards (besides child neglect -- totally kidding) of having a blog or stalking following the blogs of others is feeling that everyone else has it all "together" or is doing "it" better than we are. I admit, I'm guilty.

Look how clean her house is. Her kids are always dressed so nice. I bet she never stays in her pajamas all day. Surely she feed her children from all the food groups every meal.

The goal of my blog has always been to document parts of our life. I don't journal. I'm not a scrapbooker. Heck, I can barely keep my kids' baby books updated. So, for me this is kind of a catch-all. My memory stinks and I rarely print pictures, so if it's on here I'll remember. It's my hope that someday my children will be able to make fun of me get a glimpse of what life was like when they were little. I want them to know that we were happy. Of course, I want them to understand that things were crazy and a little hard at times, but mostly I want them to know that we were happy.

So, I find myself struggling with how much to reveal on this here blog thingamabob. Somedays I feel like sitting the corner and crying with my 3-year-old, other days I loose my temper so quickly I scare myself, and there are the days when my kids eat dry cereal for breakfast, peanut butter and jelly for lunch, and mac & cheese for dinner. I could (and sometimes do) write about those days, but I think it's better for us all if I stick to mainly the touchy-feeling, happy-go-lucky posts. And here's why: I'm an emotional roller-coaster. Always have been, always will be. My feelings come and go as quickly as my toddler's temper tantrums. My emotions change from one minute to the next. If I blog about all those suck-y moments/days then I'll remember them. If I don't blog about them, then I won't. And if I don't have to remember them, then I don't want to. It's as simple as that. What I do want to remember, however, is the chaos, noise, laughter, mess, laundry, smiles, bumped heads, bruises, exhaustion of our life.

Here's my point: Please don't ever be under the impression that I have it all "together." Just because it isn't on my blog, doesn't mean it isn't happening. And to my fellow bloggers that are completely transparent and real -- THANK YOU! I love knowing that I am not alone!

Make sense?

Ok, then. Here's some reality for you.

My child, her unbrushed hair and the disaster of a playroom

See that there? On top of the top bunk? It's my Christmas chaos. Unwrapped presents, bags, bows, wrapping paper.

And this. This is our "entryway." I'm too lazy to hang up all the coats and put away all the shoes. So there they stay.

And my bed. It rarely gets made. If you're wondering...Camden is snuggled up under that blanket.

Another shot of chaos.

Oh, the laundry. *Sigh* Washed and dried. Just waiting for someone to pick it up, carry it upstairs, fold it, and put it away.

There you have it. A big 'ol dose of reality! Wanna share your reality?


Anonymous said...

The unmade beds, the laundry, unbrushed hair, missing a bath, unmatched clothes, the dirty dishes....those are things the kids will not remember. They will remember being loved, feeling safe, and playing with mommy and daddy. And THOSE are the important things in life. You are doing just fine.
Julie H.

Kendra ;) said...

I thought your house was always clean...I thought I was the only one! I feel much better now! My trick? When I take pictures of Dixon...I put him in a clean corner of the house! ;)

Anonymous said...

You guys are just the best mommy & daddy, so if I have ONE suggestion it's to do your best to cut yourself some slack. You're on the right track with ignore the rest and remember the happy/fun/exhausting/chaotic moments!! You guys are AWESOME (AND have the best/cutest/sweetest kids ever!!). 143mom

The Lynam's said...

OK, so is it ok for my house to look like this since I feel like crap all the time and I don't even HAVE the baby yet???? Way to keep it real Missy. Wanna know another secret? My hair today looks like Addi's hair in her picture :) Hey, it's winter break!!

Alisa said...

I totally gave you a shout out today for this post. Thank you for this post!!! It brought a huge smile to my face - you're great!

CarsonFamily said...

Right there with you Missy. Hang in there! My secret (besides ditto on Kendra's) When I do post...I type my blogs with one hand, while holding Joel, still in my bathrobe and glasses until half an hour before Scott gets home.

Anonymous said...

I had someone once tell me that the kids won't remember a perfectly kept home, but they will remember reading books and playing with their mom (and dad). Having three kids as young as yours, leaves no time to be Martha Stewart. Relax, and enjoy your family.

Merry Christmas!


Anonymous said...

Thank you for the post Missy, it is so true. I hope you all have a very Merry Christmas and if you are like me, all of the presents will get wrapped 5 minutes before they need to be, Love youm Libby

Spiegel's said...

Missy, whose life with children aren't like this? My gosh, it doesn't matter how clean you make it, they are going to come and distroy it. Taytem and I left to go to Iowa early and he cleaned up EVERYTHING! The second we get home it's a mess. Things don't and won't stay clean long. I TOTALLY relate to your blog! You are amazing as a mother!


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